Japanese spirit part6

About Real feelings (Honnne )and one’s public stance (Tatemae );

Honne is actual feelings . It refers to what people really feel in the pit of their stomach. Tatemae is one’s officials statement in public , which is influenced and formed by one’s position and circumstances and the social norms . Consequently ,

Honne is sometimes very different from Tatemae .

It is a recognized social phenomena to switch from Honne to Tatemae or vice versa depending on the situation. For instance, we observe Tatemae at the office but show our Honne only to our closest friends. Tatemae may sound dishonest to some foreigners,but we try to avoid confrontation and to maintain good relationships with others by making the distinction between Honne and Tatemae .